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Feelings Kit Spotlight

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The Feelings Collection includes six essential oil blends that you can use morning and evening to promote peaceful thoughts and harmony. Each of these oils is a powerful tool on its own for emotional release, and when combined you have a truly incredible tool for your emotional health!

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THE FEELINGS KIT AT A GLANCE

  • Includes six powerful emotional blends: Forgiveness, Harmony, Inner Child, Release, Present Time, and Valor.
  • Can be used all together to release trauma, inspire forgiveness, and allow us to move forward in our full potential.
  • Each blend includes high frequency oils such as Rose, Sandalwood, Davana, and Blue Tansy.
  • The oils promote peaceful thoughts and spiritual harmony.

BACKGROUND Emotional and physical health are so closely linked, and often our physical ailments are a result of stored trauma! We want to dig deep to release all our comfort vices, sit with and honor our experiences and trauma, and do the emotional work needed to move forward in healing and self love. Instead of turning to things like detachment, Netflix binges, alcohol, food, sugar, shopping, work, projects or any other comfort measure that keeps us from truly processing the emotions beneath, we are going to pull out the Feelings Kit and use these oil blends with intention and consistency!

FEELINGS KIT OILS AT A GLANCE

  • Valor is renowned for its strengthening qualities and ability to align energy centers in the body.
  • Harmony brings a harmonic balance to the energy centers of the body.
  • Forgiveness allows the release of harmful memories and promotes a willingness to move forward.
  • Present Time allows you to see your life's future with an open mind for new possibilities.
  • Release promotes feelings of harmony and balance of the mind and body.
  • Inner Child brings feelings of stimulating memory responses and helps you reconnect with your innocence.
  • Valor locks in the feelings of balance and completeness.

OILS & EMOTIONS Why use these essential oils (or oils at all?!) for this process? Because of the power of aromatherapy and the limbic system. Our sense of smell is directly related to our emotions and mood. The cranial nerve associated with smell sits next to the hypothalamus - the area of the brain responsible for mood, feelings and emotional processing. Further, the Feelings Kit blends contain a combination of oils high in compounds that can cross the blood brain barrier to reprogram bad coding from the cells. Then other compounds rewrite that code to restore the original perfect copy, one that will not keep us pulled into the physical and emotional effects of stress. This is a process, but the great thing about essential oils is that we have a CHOICE to embrace that process instead of loading our bodies up with lots of toxins and other things that create more confusion in the cells.

HOW TO USE THE FEELINGS KIT OILS The Feelings Collection includes six essential oil blends, each of which is a powerful tool for supporting and releasing emotional patterns. Use in the morning and evening to promote peaceful thoughts and spiritual harmony.

FORGIVENESS Forgiveness is a beautiful blend of high frequency oils - Melissa, Geranium, Frankincense, Royal Hawaiian Sandalwood, Coriander, Angelica, Bergamot, Lemon, Ylang ylang, Jasmine, Helichrysum, Roman Chamomile, Palmarosa and Rose.

These oils work synergistically to create a calm, uplifting environment when forgiving yourself and others and can help us release the stagnant, toxic thoughts stuck in our body's memory that act as a safety mechanism.

When we experience trauma or feel unsafe, thoughts become encoded in our nervous system, and from that point on, all of our senses give us warning notes via our subconscious (and sometimes conscious) thoughts.

These memories and thoughts can be triggered by sight, sound, taste, touch, and smell, and they show up in our current experiences and pull us down. The most common emotional patterns created are Self-denial, Revenge and Distrust.

The problem is that our bodies can't tell the difference between an emotional threat and a physical threat. When we start feeling emotionally vulnerable after these messages have been encoded, the body will send warnings, sometimes thousands of times per day, to keep us alive. We want to reverse these patterns, to restore the blueprint of our original ability to be at PEACE.

Emotions associated with Forgiveness: Distrust (felt in the gut): Distrust results from being stressed, and stress is caused by many subconscious messages pulling us in different directions. To establish a healthier pattern of trust, we need “integrity”, which is where our thoughts, beliefs, and emotions can become consistent. No more secret messages internally scattering our thoughts.

  • Old pattern: Distrust. New pattern: Integrity.
  • Affirmation: “I honor truth.” We can release old trauma and untruth that is stuck in the body, and move forward with integrity.

Self-Denial (felt in back of neck, base of skull): The most common root of denying our own needs is expecting others to know what we need before we have asked. This leads to living with a spirit of neglect, blaming others, and unforgiveness. In fact, it often looks like taking care of everything under the sun EXCEPT for ourselves, and an underlying thought cycle that we are “the only one who does anything around here.”

  • Old pattern: Self-denial New pattern: Wisdom.
  • Affirmation: “I support myself.”

Daily Habits with Forgiveness When using the Forgiveness blend, meditate on the opposite of the above emotions - supporting yourself, finding awareness to honor your experiences, detaching from allowing someone else to have a say over your worth and value. Use the mantras below as you apply the oil, sit with the feelings until you feel a shift.

Daily affirmations to pair with the Forgiveness blend:

  • I Have Courage to Honor my Story
  • I Learn from All Experiences
  • I Forgive (others or myself)
  • I Support Myself

HARMONY

  • Harmony essential oil blend contains some amazing emotional support oils - Sacred Sandalwood, Lavender, Ylang Ylang, Frankincense, Orange, Angelica, Geranium, Hyssop, Spanish Sage, Black Spruce, Coriander, Bergamot, Lemon, Jasmine, Roman Chamomile, Palmarosa, and Rose.
  • These oils work together to help us promote harmony within our minds and bodies through releasing the past, finding peace in the present and looking forward to the future.

Harmony helps to release toxic beliefs and thought patterns related to feeling ignored, crushed, hostile, afraid of punishment, beating ourselves up, sarcasm, and stubbornness. When we feel ignored, our perception is that we are not a part of the big picture. We aren't good enough, worthy enough, or able to play our part. When we are crushed, we are collapsing inwardly. Who we are has been forced down and suppressed. We stop seeing our part. When we are hostile, we are quick to see others as the enemy, and everything in life as an opposition to our part. We are trying to play alone, because we can't trust the other parts.

Daily Habits with Harmony

  • When there are situations where you are experiencing some of the emotions listed above, sit or stand still until you feel where that emotion is causing a sensation in your body. It might feel like pain, twitching, tingling, aching, nausea, heat, cold, or a general tension.
  • Rub Harmony over the area (or just nearby if it's sensitive), and hold your hand over the spot. Take several deep breaths. This is a simple step to become aware of the mind-body connection. It's okay if you don't know how to fix all of these issues right this minute. Begin embracing the idea that you have a part to play, a harmony that only you can add to the relationships and opportunities in your life!
  • Diffuse Harmony as you process emotions and trauma, while you sleep or as you meditate or journal.
  • Wear this oil as a daily perfume and remind yourself of truths and affirmations for the emotions you are processing.

INNER CHILD Inner Child essential oil blend combines Orange, Tangerine, Ylang ylang, Royal Hawaiian Sandalwood, Jasmine, Lemongrass and Spruce essential oils. This blend helps release the emotions that distort memories in our cells. Think of this like a picture or video of past events where little edits were made to present something threatening, even if that was not the case.

The symptoms of this vary widely, but we might notice some patterns:

  • When someone tries to be honest, especially friends/family, we continually hear their voice criticizing us for months afterward.
  • We find ourselves revisiting the same short list of past hurts on a regular basis, telling stories about what someone did or said to us, thinking each time that if we just vent...the pressure of that pain or offense will let up.
  • We create an image of ourselves (typically a bad one) and no matter what we do to take care of ourselves, that recording makes sure we stay ashamed, disappointed, and hopeless, or...
  • We finally start feeling better about ourselves because we have fulfilled an imaginary list of “things that will make us feel accomplished” - only to find that the stress of keeping up with that list starts to slowly steal from our relationships and our sanity.

Inner Child blend is sometimes referred to as ‘The Therapist'. When you visit a therapist, they do their work, not by talking, but through listening. They encourage you to share the feelings, past, and thoughts that make up your inner workings. To process through how you came to your patterns, actions, and current beliefs.

Many times there were situations where someone as a child felt unseen, unheard, or unvalued. In order to move forward, it is important to look back and allow that inner child to speak. When we consider what a child will need, we begin to see our own needs more clearly. It's obvious to us that a child who has experienced something new or difficult would require additional help and attention to deal with that event.

Some practical uses for this blend are:

  • Overcoming the trauma of abuse
  • Promoting acceptance
  • Accepting our own needs
  • Stimulating an emotional healing process
  • Releasing obsessive habits and patterns
  • Supporting the mind, body, and emotions during periods of transition
  • For children who struggle with intense fear, trouble letting go and moving on, or who have been uprooted or experienced a traumatic change, this oil will be a huge support.

Daily Habits with Inner Child

  • Place several drops of Inner Child in your diffuser as you process emotions.
  • Diffuse with Release as you sleep.
  • Apply Inner Child around the navel and rub a drop into your palms to inhale directly.
  • Use this blend on and around you consistently. Our emotional patterns that took a lifetime to form aren't going to get unraveled completely in one day.

PRESENT TIME Present Time is a lovely blend of Neroli, Spruce and Ylang ylang in a base of almond oil, making it wonderful for direct application or diffusing.

Present Time helps you focus on the here and now, so you can get beyond the past and move forward. When paired with other emotional support oils, this is a powerful tool for truly being present with your current experiences and releasing the pain of the past.

Neroli is steam distilled from orange blossoms and is the most lovely, uplifting aroma. Neroli was used by the ancient Egyptians for the healing of mind, body and spirit. It is stabilizing and strengthening to the emotions, promotes peace, confidence and awareness, and brings mental awareness to alleviate anxiety, depression and insomnia.

Spruce is a powerful emotional tool. This oil helps us to open and release emotional blocks and helps foster a sense of balance and grounding.

Ylang Ylang essential oil promotes relaxation, balances male and female energies, restores confidence and equilibrium, and alleviates insomnia, which often occurs when we are repressing emotions.

This blend of oils creates a strong, encouraging scent to increase the ability to focus on the present moment. As busy men and women, parents, care givers, employees, etc. we can become so focused on the next deadline, task or responsibility, and it becomes very easy to lose sight of what is directly in front of us. The stack of papers or dishes or laundry seems so time sensitive that we rush through the people in front of us - children, spouses, partners, friends, even ourselves.

Present Time helps us to allow ourselves to give and receive in the present even when we have been hurt in the past.

Daily Habits with Present Time

  • Wear this oil as a perfume each day. Apply over the wrists, chest and throat. You can even place a drop on the crown of the head!
  • Diffuse Present Time as you walk through visualizations, journal or simply sit quietly and think through your feelings.
  • Apply or diffuse Present Time during intentional time with family, significant other and other relationships you want to cultivate.

RELEASE Release is one of the most powerful emotional tools around!

This oil is a blend of Ylang ylang, Lavender, Geranium, Royal Hawaiian Sandalwood, Grapefruit, Tangerine, Lemon, Blue cypress, Davana (a POWERFUL emotional oil!) Lime, Ocotea, Jasmine, Chamomile, Blue tansy (highly supportive and calming to the Central Nervous System), and Rose.

In short, it is a powerhouse blend of highly valuable oils that are high frequency (Rose, Davana, Jasmine) and help us tap into the past trauma we've experienced, honor the experiences, heal the wounds, and release the pain to move forward in our full potential.

Royal Hawaiian Sandalwood and Blue Tansy specifically help to stimulate the pineal gland to remember and release past hurts and to soothe the Central Nervous System (our fight or flight system!).

Citrus oils like Grapefruit, Tangerine, Lemon and Lime are great tools for processing feelings of sadness and grief, which always come in the presence of trauma or distress.

Basically, the oils in this blend are perfect for helping you find that emotional exhale!

Remember, trauma here is defined as “any situation where you got less than you needed and were not equipped to process it.” These traumas actually get stored deep within our cellular memory, and we can use the limbic system of the brain to help shift our thoughts and emotions around these traumas and patterns.

Release essential oil blend can help process and release feelings of anger, frustration, being held back, rebellion, feeling wronged, fear of success, and loss of identity.

It can help promote the positive side of these feelings such as cleansing, freedom, harmony and unconditional love.

Daily Habits with Release

  • Diffuse throughout the day.
  • Diffuse with Lavender at bedtime.
  • Apply topically to wrists, over the heart, to the edge of ears and feet.
  • Remember to use it EVERY DAY! Repeat a positive affirmation that rings true to you for your situation. ‘I am safe. I am loved. I am valued. I am open to success. I acknowledge the past and am ready to move forward.'

VALOR Valor is a popular blend of Frankincense, Black Spruce, Blue Tansy, Camphor Wood, and Geranium that is helpful for many emotions around our activated, sympathetic, fight or flight response, thus it's battle-worthy name!

In fact, this oil is inspired by the oils that Roman Soldiers would bathe in before battle. The oils would sit atop the water in their bath houses and this special blend was added before a big battle. When they rose from the water, the oils would soak and stay on their skin to help prepare them for something big and scary ahead.

Valor‘s woodsy, calming aroma comes from a blend of Black Spruce, Blue Tansy, and Frankincense. This blend can also be a key oil in overcoming emotional abuse and recovering from trauma. It's a powerhouse when facing a trial or season of adversity because its natural properties help align the body both emotionally and physically.

Our emotions and trauma are often stored in the physical tissues and fascia of our bodies and essential oils help release stuck emotions and tension at a physical level from specific parts of the body:

  • Feeling Resigned (like you can't fight it): Diaphragm
  • Feeling like you are Losing a Battle: just below lower lip
  • Fear of Conflict: Abdomen, just above right and left hips
  • Feeling Aggressive: Abdomen, just above right and left hips
  • Feeling Defensive: Stomach

Valor has properties that get to the core control centers of the negative emotional programs. When we're ready to make a change, to start challenging that fight or flight survival mode with a better way of thinking and living, this is the perfect oil.

Daily Habits with Valor

  • Apply to your shoulders, the bottoms of your feet, the back of your neck, or anywhere that you're experiencing tension or a stressful tightness in your body.
  • Diffuse this oil as you journal, move your body or walk through visualizations.
  • Diffuse Valor while you sleep
  • Place a drop or two of Valor between your wrists (palm-up side), and then hold them together for a few minutes. Use this time to process through past trauma or emotions that are weighing you down.

THE FEELINGS PROTOCOL If you are wrestling with big emotions or trying to process hard situations, here is a great protocol developed by Gary Young that you can follow using the Feelings Kit:

  • Step 01: Apply Valor to the feet as the first step of the Cleansing of feelings.
  • Step 02: Apply Harmony on the chakra points to allow negative energy to escape.
  • Step 03: Apply Forgiveness to the navel and let go of negative emotions.
  • Step 04: Apply Present Time to the wrists and behind the ears.
  • Step 05: Apply Release over the liver and wait as feelings of frustration are lifted.
  • Step 06: Apply 1–2 drops of Inner Child just under your nose to open the pathway to connecting with your inner self.
  • Step 07: Lastly, re-apply Valor essential oil to complete the cleansing of feelings and provide completeness and balance.

TESTIMONIES

  • Forgiveness has truly allowed me to accept and at that same time let go of the past. And present time has been amazing in helping me to stay grounded in the moment and realize all the beauty around me. Inner child has recently become a favorite as I'm working with that oil to give permission to that little girl in me to stand up and take center stage. - Sabrina Y.
  • I LOVE this kit! I especially love to use it while I'm doing the Cleansing trio to colon and liver cleanse! The first time I cleansed I didn't realize there could be an emotional response from physically cleansing. I definitely released some big emotions. The next time I cleansed I used the Feelings Kit protocol with it, and it was an incredible experience!! Every time I cleanse I use the Feelings kit too because it's such a beautiful emotional support! - Courtney M.
  • The oils in this kit have helped me tremendously as I've navigated hard things in my life recently. - Sarah Y.